Thursday, March 01, 2012

Adoption: The Core of the Gospel

But when the fullness of time had come, God sent forth his Son, born of woman, born under the law, to redeem those who were under the law, so that we might receive adoption as sons. And because you are sons, God has sent the Spirit of his Son into our hearts, crying, “Abba! Father!” So you are no longer a slave, but a son, and if a son, then an heir through God.
(Galatians 4:4-7 ESV)

In the last six years, our family has increased by six children.  We describe it as “our DYNAMIC family” - characterized by constant change and activity - and we love it. 


As you would expect, as God was enlarging our family and giving us these beautiful kids, we have learned a whole lot about adoption, that is, the act of humans bringing other humans into their family.  


What I hadn’t considered was the understanding the Lord would reveal regarding our spiritual adoption, as when God the Father, the Creator, the Sovereign Lord brings HUMANS into HIS family.  How marvelous, how awesome, how beautiful!!


Let me first share with you, what we’ve learned about humans adopting humans.


Let’s define the word.
In the OT, there were three “adoptions” mentioned, Moses, Esther and someone you probably don’t hear of often named Genubath. (1 Kings 11:20)  Israel is called God’s son as well but the word ‘adoption’ does not appear in the OT.


It’s the apostle Paul who first uses this wonderful word and he borrows it from the Roman legal system.  The adoption laws of the western world are based on this same Roman legal system, though I think you will see that it’s NOT humans that have given the fullest expression of adoption, but God adopting humans is not only the basis for human adoption but the core of the Gospel itself.


The word Paul uses, in Greek, is ‘huiothesias’.  I remembered enough of my college Greek to recognize the first stem in that word, ‘huios’ as ‘son’. ‘Huios’ is the beginning of the word for adoption, ‘a son’ and the second half means ‘to place’ so literally, huiothesia means ‘to place a son.’  In Roman law it meant to place a son, not naturally born to you, into your family, as an heir, with all the same privileges, benefits, positions, responsibilities and obligations as a natural born child.


Now regarding gender neutral language, when I read in Galatians 4 “that we might receive adoption as sons” I am tempted to paraphrase this to “as sons and daughters”.  But if you know a little about Roman law OR if you’ve watched or read “Sense and Sensibility” or any of Jane Austen’s stories of Regency England, then you know that it was only the adult sons that became heirs, with all the rights and privileges - NEVER the daughters, so if Paul had said “adoption as sons and daughters” it would have lost all meaning.


Men, God has adopted you as sons if you are in Christ.  Ladies, God has adopted you as sons, if you are in Christ.  We have full and unalterable privileges as adopted adult sons, if we are hidden in Christ where there is no male or female.


I want to spend the rest of this article sharing six observations that we’ve had in the experience of adopting and then I want to demonstrate how these characteristics form the core of the Gospel and so, I’m going to run through this list of six observations TWICE.  That means if you are planning on a three point sermon, you’ll be getting FOUR times your money’s worth.

1. Adoption involves seeking and serious planning.

I always believed and even planned, that I would be at peace when our older daughters left home and I would finally be able to go into my study, with walls made from ALL my books, and just sit and read that stack of MUST READ books I was building. Teresa and I would travel to exotic places in search of the perfect Tirimisu.  When the time came, the Lord didn’t grant us peace, Teresa and I were restless - child rearing had ended too soon.


We had the privilege of watching Teresa’s older bother and his wife adopt 6 girls from around the world and Wisconsin and we enjoyed spending time with them.  We thought about the possibility of adopting and on Christmas day in 2005 we even felt called to seek out our children. Children we hadn’t seen yet, but children we already loved.


We made connections with the Foster Care system in the state of Wisconsin and met for interviews in which our entire history and philosophy was laid bare and recorded.  We gave up our privacy and confessed every secret we had so that strangers could test our worthiness.  The police, the Sheriff’s department, the FBI took our finger prints and ran checks on our backgrounds and then we waited to be certified.  This was a very serious undertaking.  Adoption involves serious seeking and planning.


2. Adoption is costly.

On the rumors of 3 little boys we hit the yard sales and bought enough clothes, toys and roller blades to get three boys from birth to college.  On word that it was between us and another couple we hit the stores to price bunk beds.  Watching the checkbook balance carefully I juggled the budget, we’ll get the money, we’ll find the money some how, these are our kids.

On word that there were 3 different kids in immediate risk, a boy, a girl and another girl and we have 20 minutes to decide we pushed the latent image of 3 boys out of our minds and considered a boy and two girls, ages 2, 5 and ‘we’re not sure’.  At least the roller blades were gender neutral.  

Today, we have six kids at home, our grocery bill has exploded, our house is out of storage space, I’m building a new bedroom, our van doesn’t hold us all at once.  Adoption is costly. Consider their hair care alone.  Those twists and braids don’t just happen.


It’s not just financial, it’s also emotionally stressful and it requires time.  I can summarize the financial cost, the emotional stress and the time involvement in one word - DIAPERS!  The life of a diaper is ridiculously short and it’s death is smeared with dishonor and disgrace.  How tempted I have been to call the people who handle hazardous material for a living but the budget wouldn’t allow it.  Adoption is costly.


3.  Adoption involves a change in moral values.

JB, Luc, Emie, Théo, Rosie, Claire, you are Vigneaults, our family has certain values that we uphold.  We learn the Ten Commandments because our heavenly Father values these things and as his children we do not want to bring shame upon His household.  You will learn our values and respect one another and avoid bringing shame to our household but if you fail... and you will fail, we have a Savior.  We are saved by His grace, by his work, by his righteousness, by his blood. Adoption involves a change in moral values.


4. Adoption, often removes a child from very bad situations.

I’m not going to go into the details here but suffice it to say my children have seen the results of human depravity, the worst of those who by nature are God haters, who seek their own and who glory in their shame.  Taken out of a world of drugs and addictions, of crime and violence, that lacks in any kind of ethical foundation.


There was one evening when Teresa and I were leaving in the car and Luc was expressing anxiety to Emie over whether we would return and would they would be able to eat.  Luc wasn’t thinking like a son yet but still as a slave to fear.  Emie quickly explained, “Don’t worry, these people won’t let us be hungry.  They’ll come back and they will feed us.”  Adoption, often removes a child from very bad situations.


5. Adoption involves a legal, unalterable act.
After giving the biological parents time to change their destructive behaviors which had placed our children at risk, there was a legal proclamation to terminate the rights of the parents (according to the flesh).  Then after a time of appeal we went to the courthouse and a smiling judge - you don’t get to see judges, especially family court judges smile much - a smiling judge pronounced a decree of adoption.  It is a very exciting moment.


The judge said, “Mr. and Mrs. Vigneault, do you understand that this adoption decree will establish the relationship of parent and child, together with all the rights, responsibilities, and duties, between you and Jean-Luc and Noèmie and Jean-Théodore?”  Yes we do.


“Do you understand that from this day forward, Claire-Terese, Rosalie, Jean-Baptiste are entitled to inherit real and personal property by, through, and from you and has the same legal status, including all legal rights and obligations of any kind whatsoever, as a child born to you?”  Yes we do.


The judge pronounced the decree of adoption in accordance with the law and it was DONE.



6. Adoption changes one’s history.

At this point, and before we took pictures of our family WITH the smiling judge,  the court clerk called me over and asked for an $86 check to cover the cost of birth certificates.  Yes, I said birth certificates. Isn’t that wild?  A week later the birth certificates showed up.  There was the name of the hospital and the date of birth and even the attending nurse, but where the baby’s name was, there was the new name of our new child - on the lines where the parents names were, there were OUR names.  A judge pronounced a decree and it generated a birth certificate that changed history.


Who our children were, and if they had any debts outstanding, it no longer mattered, everything was brand new.


That is a brief recounting of some of the remarkable attributes of human adoption but adoption finds it’s truest expression in the act of God adopting humans so allow me to run through this list again, with our eye on the Father.


1. Adoption involves seeking and serious planning.

Ephesians 1:4-6 tells us that

he (God) chose us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and blameless before him. In love 5 he predestined us for adoption as sons through Jesus Christ, according to the purpose of his will, 6 to the praise of his glorious grace, with which he has blessed us in the Beloved.

Even before the fall, God had planned our adoption.  God ordained, from the beginning, the creation, the fall, our redemption, our adoption so that his adopted children would know the full range of God’s glory and mercy and grace.


That’s what he did in eternity past, but in the fullness of time, as he promised Eve, “he sent forth a Son, His Son, born of woman, born under the law to redeem... so that we might receive adoption as sons.” Our adoption involved serious planning.


2. Adoption is costly.  

“But when the fullness of time had come, God sent forth his Son, born of woman, born under the law, 5 to REDEEM!”  To redeem! To purchase, to buy back, to erase the debts, to pay the price in full.


If you took all the money and possessions that I have and you have and Warren Buffet has and Bill Gates has and every precious thing in and on the earth, it couldn’t even begin to approach the worth of a single drop of blood that dripped down a rough cross on a Friday afternoon outside of Jerusalem nearly 2000 years ago.


That old cross was soaked with that precious blood and worst than that, it pleased the Father to pour out the full measure of his anger on the one man... the only man... who didn’t deserve it.  “My God”, the son cried, “My God, why have you forsaken ME?”  Jesus Christ lived a perfectly obedient and righteous life under the law so that he could let you receive the credit... his credit... for HIS perfection.  


Jesus Christ took the punishment that should have been ours, he became our substitute, he became a CURSE... for us.  Why? To reconcile us to the Father, to allow for us to become his true, real, brothers and sisters.  There is no injustice in this world, that matches the injustice of God’s perfect and righteous son taking the punishment of sinners and counting us as those who have lived perfectly before God’s all seeing eyes.  Our adoption was costly.


3. Adoption involves a change of moral values.

Romans 8:14 “For all who are led by the Spirit of God are sons of God.”  God’s Spirit takes up residency in us as a seal of our adoption and He changes the things we value... not all at once of course, and not all of us at the same pace but we change.  He moves us in ways that help us to bear our new family values.  “Oh Lord, I love your commandment and your ways but I obey them imperfectly.  Help me to walk in your ways but remind me that I am yours by grace and acceptable in your Son. Move my children in your ways Lord. Help me to teach them to love your Word”

Our adoption changes our moral values.


4. Adoption, often removes a child from very bad situations.

Ephesians 2:3 says that “We... were by nature children of wrath, like the rest of mankind.” 

Wouldn’t we all like to say that “I was a cuddly and adorable little baby left of God’s doorstep and he just couldn’t RESIST saving me.”


The truth is as simple as it is painful: in Adam we have all sinned and God’s hates sin.  He is more holy than we can comprehend and we are more sinful and sin filled than we would ever admit.  We try and cover our sins with drugs, entertainment, music and even good works but in our deepest core we know that apart from Christ we are dead men walking. The chasm, morally and culturally, is too great for any man’s attempt to cross it.  How can I go to God??? I can’t!  We can’t!!


But he has come to us.  God sent forth his Son.  God was not obligated to save anyone.  God would have been perfectly just to leave us to our own destruction but God saves sinners.  In Adam, I was dead but in Christ I am his son, his heir with all the privileges.  Adoption by God, ALWAYS removes a child from a very bad situation.


5. Adoption involves a legal, unalterable act.

Galatians 4:6 includes the phrase “And because you ARE sons.”  You see, something happened.  

There was a decree of adoption and it changed everything. Legal matters had to be attended to.

God’s own law demanded that we be punished and EXCLUDED from his presence.  That would have been justice.  God had to satisfy his justice and he did it through the life, death and resurrection of Jesus Christ.


Now here is the important part.  He didn’t wait for you to begin acting like his child before he took legal action to adopt you.  Read that again!  You didn’t clean up your life or in any way earn the right to be adopted.  God, unilaterally, took action and pronounced His decree of adoption while you were still a sinner.  He adopted you first, and it was then that you began to enjoy the privileges and benefits of sonship.  That is remarkable!  That is God’s mercy and grace.  Our adoption is a legal and unalterable act - no man can change it.


6, Lastly, adoption changes our history.

In the book of Exodus, Chapter 34, Moses had asked God to show him his glory and in doing so the Lord expressed the verbal part of his glory by proclaiming,

The Lord, the Lord, a God merciful and gracious, slow to anger, and abounding in steadfast love and faithfulness, 7 keeping steadfast love for thousands, forgiving iniquity and transgression and sin, but who will by no means clear the guilty, visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children and the children's children, to the third and the fourth generation.

My father Adam ran up some debts.  My father Adam, passively stood by while my mother Eve was seduced by a smooth talking serpent.  My father Adam willfully did the very thing that the Creator told him not to do.  My father Adam in his shame, tried to cover up his debt with fig leaves.  How dumb is that? I am embarrassed for him.  He was a fool.


The Creator had every right to skin my father Adam alive and spread his blood all over the garden. Instead, the Creator made a temporary substitute of an innocent beast and shed the innocents blood and covered my father Adam temporarily.


My father Adam passed his debts on to his sons, and they to their sons and so on and so forth. Throughout history, my ancestors shed the blood of innocent animals to temporarily hide the debt that kept on increasing.  Every generation added to the debt.


I inherited that debt, I inherited my father’s passivity, and no matter how much I tried to pretend that I didn’t owe the Creator anything, my conscience testified against me.  How can a man of sin, the son of law breakers, a man steeped in debt, whose father Adam, in one act of defiance, turned the entire world into one gigantic ORPHANAGE, approach a holy God?


There is good news, the Creator has provided a way.  The Creator has planned and sought... he has paid a costly and awful price... he has sent his spirit of adoption to remove you from a bad situation... he has satisfied every legal demand... and he has changed your history.

Dear brothers and sisters in Christ, if an earthly judge can offer a legal pronouncement powerful enough to generate a NEW birth certificate, consider the power and assurance behind the words of the Judge of the universe, the Creator, the Sovereign Majesty whose authority dwarfs every and all others.


When God says that you are adopted as sons, he is not giving you an illustration to help you to understand salvation, his adoption language is NOT an analogy; when the Father says you are his adopted child he is describing a real and legal and unalterable relationship.  You are really his child NOW!!!, with all the benefits, privileges and position that goes with being a child.  You may even call him “Abba”, “Father”.


We, the church, are REALLY brothers and sisters with all the obligations and responsibilities that brothers and sisters have to each other.  I don’t call you brother or sister because your my friend, or because I can’t remember your name.  I call you brother and sister because we have been adopted by the same Father and hidden in the same brother, we are members of the same household.


There is a man in your church who is a bruised reed - he is one fiber away from breaking - he is not your neighbor, he is not your friend - he is your brother. Our Father expects you to go to him, hold him up and strengthen him.


There is a lady in your church who is a faintly burning wick - she is one small spark away from being quenched. She is not your neighbor, she is not your friend - she is your sister. Our Father expects you to go to her and see that her needs are met.



Lastly, if you are reading this and you are not sure if you are reconciled to God through adoption IN CHRIST, then please consider this:


You have just heard the gospel proclaimed.  All of that talk of sin and our inability to save ourselves is the bad news and I won’t try to soften the truth. You, like every child of Adam, deserves eternal punishment for your sins. There is no salvation outside of Jesus Christ. Mohammed and Allah can’t save.  The Bhudda can’t save.  Any system of belief that holds Jesus Christ lower than Almighty God, through whom the world was made and who has all authority in Heaven and on earth, that belief will not save you.  If you want to trust in your own good works, no matter how good you try to live, your good works will never be good enough. That is the bad news.


But here is the good news, if you confess with your mouth, that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart, your core, that God raised him from the dead.... you will be saved.  You don’t have to live and die an orphan.  God has prepared a home for you.


I was greatly helped in outlining and organizing this article by a resource from Dr. John Piper, “Adoption: The Heart of the Gospel”, http://www.desiringgod.org/resource-library/conference-messages/adoption-the-heart-of-the-gospel and by Dr. Russel Moore’s excellent book, “Adopted for Life”.


Friday, June 17, 2011

20,288 Days and Still, NO PROGRESS!

Today marked the 20,288th day in a row that I had nothing to offer the Father but my filthiness, my sin and my utter need for His mercy in Jesus Christ.

 "6 For while we were still weak, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly. 7 For one will scarcely die for a righteous person—though perhaps for a good person one would dare even to die— 8 but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us." Romans 5:6-8

Even more humbling is the realization that God knew that for 20,288 consecutive days I would have nothing good to offer him - NO PROGRESS!  Now there is something to look forward to. Why doesn't He get sick of me? After 5479 days I turned 15 and still had nothing good to offer God. After 7919 days He graciously gave me my beautiful wife to try and curb my inner barbarian. On the 10,449th day, my second daughter was born and my need for God's mercy was deeper still.  Today, on the 20,288th day, married to the same remarkable lady for 12,368 days - I have 7 precious children, countless friends and the depth of my iniquity and need for a savior is infinite. It's not that I'm better or worse than anyone else, it's that we have ALL sinned against an infinitely Holy Creator.  I'm not maladapted, in need of therapy - I didn't have a moral lapse, a mistake in judgment and sorry to those whom I might have offended - I have sinned against the Holy One.  It's not even the depth of our sins. God is perfect and we owe Him our perfection and so the seemingly least of sins is enough to earn us His eternal wrath.

I have nothing good to offer Him BUT I have a great savior.  God is not a great savior because He saw in me the potential to be a good man, a good husband, a good dad, and he chose me to help me develop my potential, NO!!!! God is a great savior because he saw in me NO GOOD THING, He saw in me that I hated Him, He saw in me the object worthy of His wrath, He saw in me selfish pride, lust, anger and the potential to commit the most heinous sins and YET, He sent His son into the world to die in payment for those sins.  I have a great savior.

"18 All this is from God, who through Christ reconciled us to himself and gave us the ministry of reconciliation; 19 that is, in Christ God was reconciling the world to himself, not counting their trespasses against them, and entrusting to us the message of reconciliation. 20 Therefore, we are ambassadors for Christ, God making his appeal through us. We implore you on behalf of Christ, be reconciled to God. 21 For our sake he made him to be sin who knew no sin, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God." Romans 5:18-21

So on this 20,288th day, I have nothing good to offer God but my filthiness, my sin and my GRATITUDE for saving a wretch like me.  He has done so much for me of which I am unworthy, the least I can do is worship Him and tell YOU of His great love.

Wednesday, March 23, 2011

Of Radioactive Power Plants and the Holiness of God

Wow, I can't get over how greatly people fear radiation.  In Japan we will learn that over 20,000 people have died as a result of the tsunami.  Whole towns were wiped away with every soul in them.  The news has reported very little on this massive loss of life, instead we keep hearing that there might be radioactivity in the water and the spinach.  The focus is all on the Nuclear Power plants and the potential loss of life (no one has actually died of radiation in Japan) and say very little of the 20,000 who HAVE died.

Here in the US people are buying up Potassium Iodide tablets for fear that the radioactive cloud or wind will make it around the world.  Yes, these concerns are within the realm of possibility but probability says we are over reacting and that we are TERRIBLY frightened of radiation.

I want to take advantage of this powerful fear to speak about something that very few people fear - the Holiness of God.

The word 'holy' means 'separate'.  Whatever God calls holy is separated for a holy use or purpose.  It becomes holy because God says so.  It can be an article (the ark, a candle stand, a wash basin), it can be a day (the Sabbath).  Anything associated with God is holy but only God is HOLY.  The divine attribute of holiness means that God is the most unique entity in the universe.  There is nothing to which you can compare Him, no created thing is like Him, no power or idea is like Him. God is wholly OTHER, totally separate from creation. Holiness is the umbrella attribute that describes ALL of God's attributes. What is the effect of God's Holiness upon us?

Our progress in sanctification (being transformed for a godly purpose) is tempered by this idea - that God's holiness is radioactive to us. I say it this way because very few fear God's holiness but everyone fears radiation. Look to Isaiah 6:5. Isaiah had a vision of God in the temple and he saw His Holiness and he pronounced a very shocking curse upon himself, he said, "Woe is me, I am undone." The words literally mean "I am disintegrated". God's holiness rips us apart at a cellular level. There is nothing good in us, not one cell and when we come in contact with God's holiness we realize the horrible danger we are in. The seraph flew to Isaiah and touched his lips with a cleansing hot coal. Of course the cleansing is the application of the Gospel. Because of the blood of Christ, the Gospel, we may stand in the presence of God's holiness, we come together enough to stand.

But what happens if we hunger to know God more? We read the Word, we hear it preached, we hide it in our hearts and we begin to draw closer to God, we apprehend more of the knowledge of God but in doing so we come closer to his holiness and once again we begin to disintegrate. We turn again to the Gospel for cleansing and the power to stand in His presence and draw closer still.

This is sanctification, the constant tension of the Gospel enabling us to move closer to the Holy One to be stopped by our sinfulness and knocked back, to rely on the Gospel to enable us and it continues in this cycle until we stand before His throne. The unsaved man understands neither the Holiness of God nor the utter destructiveness of sin and the inability for the two to be reconciled. God is revolted by sin and man is the most revolting thing in creation. But the one in Christ is in a constant state of transforming as we learn to rely on the Gospel to allow us to withstand more of the Holiness of God.

This is Law and Gospel, the Holiness of God is revealed in the Law and legalism only clarifies the fact that God is holy and we are not. It's like putting on a hat made of cesium to protect us from uranium. The Gospel is our protection that allows us to move closer - in Him we live and move and have our being.

Friday, January 07, 2011

If God is so powerful then why does he need to be praised and glorified?

"If God is so powerful then why does he need to be praised and glorified?"  I hear this question a lot, mostly from skeptics but also from believers.  God does NOT need to be praised or glorified because God doesn't NEED anything.  God didn't even need to create but he did and here we are.

Every week Christians go to church to ascribe to God his supreme worth for he alone is supremely worthy. We don't worship God because he needs to be worshiped but so that we might enjoy fellowship with the Creator and his children. Here's an illustration: Not to brag but I have a brick of 15 year old cheddar, it sells for about $50 a pound and it was a Christmas gift from my daughter. It has great value to me. I recognize it's value by bragging about it, smelling it, eating it slowly, holding it in my mouth, pairing it with a fine libation; I even SHARE it (sparingly) and other rituals that acknowledge the value of this amazing Wisconsin delicacy.

Worshiping God is pretty much the same thing. We acknowledge his supreme worth and value in our lives, we hear his Word preached, we boast of his majesty, we sing of his attributes and works and we receive the pleasure of knowing he is pleased to reconcile sinners back to himself.  Worship and praise are parts of a homecoming feast. (In the next article I will discuss the worship service as a homecoming feast.)

Glory, comes from the ancient Hebrew word for 'weight' or 'heaviness'. This made more sense back in the 70s when we spoke of a topic or subject as being 'heavy' - some concepts carry a great cognitive weightiness.

When we glorify God we are acknowledging his perfections and attributes. God is uniquely 'other' from his creation, there is nothing to compare him to. He displays his love, his mercy, justice, wrath, sovereignty, supremacy, power, providence and all encompassed with holiness. Our attributes are mere reflections of his and carry the distortions of the fall, we are capricious, selfish, proud and rebellious. We get a distorted view of God when we project our own weaknesses onto God.

So to glorify God is not to give him something he needs, but to acknowledge the glory that is his already and thereby finding assurance in that acknowlegement. Jonathan Edwards, America's greatest philosopher said it like this,
"God is glorified not only by His glory's being seen, but by its being rejoiced in. When those that see it delight in it, God is more glorified than if they only see it.... He that testifies his idea of God's glory [does not] glorify God so much as he testifies also his approbation of it and his delight in it."
In other words, the creature can find no greater pleasure than in acknowledging the perfections of God.
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The opposite of glorifying is blaspheming and that brings the creature no comfort at all. Speaking as one who has blasphemed and praised God, praise is better, MUCH BETTER.
Soli Deo Gloria.

Tuesday, December 21, 2010

Forgiveness and Trust


If I had to sum up the meaning of Christmas in one word, I would choose RECONCILIATION. ‘To reconcile’ is to settle a quarrel or a dispute, although my favorite definition is ‘to make friends again’.

Galatians 4:4 But when the fullness of time had come, God sent forth his Son, born of woman, born under the law, 5 to redeem those who were under the law, so that we might receive adoption as sons.

and,


Colossians 1:19 For in him all the fullness of God was pleased to dwell, 20 and through him to reconcile to himself all things, whether on earth or in heaven, making peace by the blood of his cross.

and,


2 Corinthians 5:18 All this is from God, who through Christ reconciled us to himself and gave us the ministry of reconciliation; 19 that is, in Christ God was reconciling the world to himself, not counting their trespasses against them, and entrusting to us the message of reconciliation.

Christmas time brings families together and sad but true, there are often family members that we have not reconciled with. We are willing to carry hurts for decades, (though I can think of nothing more exhausting), and we grin and bear the tension during the holidays. I wanted to write about forgiveness for a while and this time of year seems to be an extremely appropriate time.


Someone has said, “never trust your emotions, they lie!” The prophet Jeremiah received the word of God regarding our inner core,

“The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?” Jeremiah 17:9

Apart from Christ, our emotions are consummate liars but even after conversion the emotional life is a complicated phenomena. Our desires and inclinations seem to be in a near constant state of struggle against our old nature (Romans 7).


Read in Matthew 18:15-35, our Lords teaching on forgiving our brother (or sister). The teaching and the following parable give us a very strong and straight forward OUGHT. You are probably already very familiar with this scripture and you live in guilt because you just feel stuck in unforgiveness – you can’t do it! Here are just a few thoughts to consider and I mean to comfort you rather that increase your feelings of guilt:


It may seem strange, but the best way to get your mind around forgiveness is to think of the offense in terms of a financial debt. Money is tangible and so our Lord used a financial debt to help us to understand forgiveness.


Let's say you loan me 1000 dollars and then I don't pay you back. After a long awkward relationship I go to you and say, "please, forgive my debt because I can't pay it." You do. Now, my debt is forgiven and you no longer hold me accountable for the money. I am relieved and I thank you profusely. We hug and have coffee together - we've been reconciled.


What happened to the debt, did it evaporate? No, YOU absorbed it. YOU took the pain, the hurt, the inconvenience. When you forgave me it cost YOU something. Someone had to pay the debt and it was YOU. You forgave my financial debt because you had the financial and intestinal means to do so. It was an act of mercy but it cost you something.


When someone hurts you emotionally it's no different. You just can't pretend it never happened because someone has to absorb the pain. Forgiveness requires prayer and a full understanding of what Christ has done for us. Christ has taken all debts upon himself so that if a brother or sister hurts you, then you ought to forgive that brother or sister. Nevertheless, though we OUGHT to forgive, we still must be aware that we will have to take the hurt upon ourselves and THAT requires emotional strength and spiritual maturity.


Forgiveness is the willingness to absorb the hurt and pain in order to free the offender from any further debt to you. Trust, is the willingness to risk being hurt AGAIN and having to absorb the pain AGAIN.


You OUGHT to forgive but let’s follow the Lords teaching from a sermon on discipleship in Luke 14,

28 For which of you, desiring to build a tower, does not first sit down and count the cost, whether he has enough to complete it?

Reconciliation is like the rebuilding of a tower. You ought to build it but you ALSO ought to count the cost. If you don’t consider the amount of hurt or loss that you must absorb then you may find the whole attempt crumbling and even more pain will come to all involved.


Forgiveness? Trust? Can you afford these emotionally? Maybe not! You may not be ready, but it should be your goal and Christ’s forgiveness of us is the foundation that we need to work from. Trust doesn't mean that you should be foolish but it does mean that you are willing to risk being hurt for the sake of the Gospel and the furthering of the Kingdom. In all things, may God be glorified.